Four Foundations to Craft Your Story into Something Powerful & Memorable

Be a Voice, Not an Echo

As I uttered the words, “I want to have a voice, not just be an echo,” I was taken aback. These words dismantled my old foundation, paving the way for a new, authentic self. This realization, “Be a Voice, Not an Echo,” stands as the Second Truth I’ve learned over my 20 years in business.

Let’s delve deeper into this concept.

Reflection of My Echo

The origin of my echo traces back to my childhood. Diagnosed with ADHD at eight, I was the restless child who struggled to process emotions. In the 80s, awareness and understanding of ADHD were limited, leaving me feeling inadequate. As a result, I began mirroring others’ behaviors and thoughts, never fully acknowledging my own. The echo became my refuge.

Fast-forward 30 years, I had constructed my life around my husband, Avery. But when an accident left him grappling with pain and depression, everything shattered. In the solitude of my office, I realized my complicity—I had been an echo for so long that I lacked my own anchor. When Avery crumbled, so did I. I yearned for more—a voice distinct from the shadows.

Clarity Through Storytelling

In pursuit of clarity, I revisited my younger self and the narrative I had internalized. This journey of self-discovery unearthed a tale of empowerment involving a hammer—a seemingly trivial farm story I shared with my coach, Fireman Rob. Surprisingly, this tale brought tears, revealing profound insights about myself.

My coach and I explored numerous stories, but the hammer story stood out. It was a recurring childhood incident that unveiled the root of a significant personal truth.

From a Humble Hammer to Storytelling Superpower

Reflecting on my resolution of the miscommunication with my father, I realized that the skills I developed then have become my superpower. My ability to discern unspoken words and intentions has been invaluable in marketing and coaching, fostering curiosity, success, and relatability.

Who would have guessed that a simple childhood story could unveil the origins of my superpower and its impact on my career? This realization stemmed from overcoming a communication barrier, birthing my hammer story.

What the Hammer Story Reveals

This story equips me with a tool to exhibit my problem-solving skills, curiosity, and unique perspective. It distinguishes between merely telling and truly sharing a narrative. Instead of saying, “I am a good problem solver,” I share, “My Hammer Story…” (If you haven’t watched the video yet, doing so will provide clarity.)

In my coaching practice, when someone presents a problem, I challenge them, “Is that the real problem, or is there something deeper? Let’s explore.” Often, the visible issue is only part of the story. This anticipation of unspoken issues has become integral to my approach.

To incorporate these concepts into your own story, read my blog post, “Four Foundations to Craft Your Story into Something Powerful and Memorable,” and learn to make your narratives impactful and unforgettable.

Crafting Your Story

Dedicate an hour this week to shaping your story. This introspective process can illuminate your inner self and enhance your ability to connect with others.

If you’re eager to share but struggle with expression, reach out. I uncover my stories through conversations, and I’d be delighted to assist you in discovering yours.